Everyone goes through
periods in which we feel down about ourselves. There are times, usually once a month
that I feel fat, ugly and unmotivated to do anything about it. Days I feel like
that, are days that I must double down. I have to look around and remind myself
that I am privileged. I need to be thankful that I have wonderful healthy
children. A home that keeps me warm,
food I can eat. These things make me privileged, not better than those who do
not have them.
I need to focus on
that, on the positive instead of the negative. I need to realize that all of
these negative feelings are temporary. They will go away.
If your feelings are
prolonged due to a circumstance that is under your control, then this pain is
alerting you to something you need to change. Perhaps you have allowed your
sweet tooth to get the better of you, and have gained a few too many pounds. Or
you have become too easy going at work, not allowing you to advance. These are
things that you can change. Pay attention to your pain, recognize it, feel it.
Then put on your big girl pants and do something about it. Crying about it will
do nothing to change it.
Look around you, what
is it that is giving you so much pain? How can you fix it? Make an action plan,
than talk about it with your friends and family. They will help you through it.
If it really is something that you should change, good friends will support the
change and help you through it. If perhaps you are just having a moment of
insanity, (it happens (very often) so don’t feel bad about it, accept and move
one,) then, they will tell you that you have nothing to worry about.
I had days in which I
felt sad, depressed, lonely, crazy, add any negative adjective you want right
here. The first thing to do in that situation is to talk to someone, call me,
call a friend, call someone. Talk to them and be honest, raw honest, until you
take all that stuff out of you. Then do something to improve yourself. Take a
shower, clean up the house, make yourself a healthy gourmet meal, and go for a
walk. Change a muscle, change a thought. I had a great friend tell me that, and
it is so true.
Whenever I am having a horrible day, I have to hit restart, by
changing what I am doing. Move…
My next suggestion is
to get down on your knees and pray, Or sit down and write, meditate or simply
talk to your higher power, whoever that may be. If you don’t believe in an old
man sitting on a cloud, make up a different image. Make up your own image. God
does not care what you think he looks like.
Pray that he will guide you, that he will show what it is that you have
to move towards. Ask him how you can do service for others. He will answer you,
so be ready to get the answer, and be ready to do what he asks!
